Signing Up for Groups
This section is about how to make groups at Sati Sangha sustainable. We’re not entirely sure how to go about this.
As the group leaders, we will help groups evolve and live their best lives; trying to offer some variety in format, and have them available to all who are interested.
When you sign up for a group, you may look forward to attending just as we are looking forward to having you participate. But unexpected events and technological difficulties may sometimes pull you away from attending. We don’t collect a fee up front and, because we often meet online, we don’t have a basket or envelope for collecting financial support. Repeated monthly donations make this very easy. But donating monthly isn’t an option or a good way for everyone. Besides, you may be in a more open group where people drop in.
Other meditation group leaders have suggested that when you miss a group session, you might consider a donation to Sati Sangha.
We are interested in your experience if you find yourself in this situation, and would value your feedback.
In this approach to meditation our practice is relational, independent but not alone. We meet one on one or in small groups, occasionally larger groups, and we get to know each other through meditation practicing and sharing our reflections.
Our desire is to create a safe space where people can share freely, to their comfort level, and expect what they share to be held with care and respect. We ask that people talk about their own experience but refrain from talking about other people without acknowledging the relationship they have with them. This helps us prevent labeling and identifying meditators by what they talk about, at a particular point in time.
We would like to emphasize that no one can do this perfectly. This is a collective effort to use kindness, understanding, and appropriate restraint in our speech and email communication. If conflicts arise please try to talk directly with each other, first. If this cannot be resolved, please bring the issue to a teacher.
Our agreements, along with the statements below, define our ethical conduct individually, and within the sangha.
We endeavor to train in the five precepts:
- We acknowledge the power we have in a teaching position, and that line becomes blurred when we have dual relationships. We endeavor not to abuse our power and become more aware of nuanced power dynamics. We agree to be accountable to another teacher or peer in our community when working with others, and within our own practice. Additionally, we agree to treat each person with respect and dignity, and will not discriminate on the basis of race, gender, national origin, sexual orientation, mental or physical form.
- In offering our teachings on a dana basis, we are grateful to receive. Along with this honor, comes the responsibility of allowing others to give freely without coercion.
- Sexual relationships between teacher and student are prohibited. We endeavor to maintain appropriate sexual relationships within our lives and community, and endeavor to create an atmosphere free from sexual harassment.
- With our speech we endeavor to be honest and fair. We favor dialogue over silence, and encourage people to talk about conflicts and disagreements, and to become aware of their own conflicts of interest. We encourage reconciliation when possible, and agree to part ways when it looks like staying together would create more harm. Any person who speaks up to any perceived conflict, can do so without fear of retaliation by the teachers, Council, or sangha.
- In order to reduce recklessness and heedlessness, we will not abuse mind altering substances.
We agree to self-report and take responsibility for our intentions and actions. We gather strength from being willing to talk about our ignorance and misunderstandings in relationships with others in our community. We do this with the intention to learn from our mistakes, express our regrets, and practice compassion and understanding for ourselves, and the beings who walk with us upon this path.